From the course: Nano Tips for Effortless Conversations with Shadé Zahrai and Jefferson Fisher

How to carry a conversation

From the course: Nano Tips for Effortless Conversations with Shadé Zahrai and Jefferson Fisher

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How to carry a conversation

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- How to carry a conversation. Number one, don't be so eager to show off what you know and who you know. So if somebody were to tell you that you're starting a business you don't want to begin with, "Oh, a business that's, that's cool. What kind? Oh, I mean, I just got my MBA just sold my third business for, you know, 2.5. I was texting Mark Cuban last night. You know, Mark." Instead, forget all of that. Don't talk about yourself and just ask a question like, "A business that sounds awesome. What are you thinking about?" Number two, don't outshine them, meaning don't push them out of the way with your similar experience. So, for example, if you were to tell me you went skydiving this past weekend, and I responded, "Oh, skydiving, that's cool. You know, I've gone three times now. I was going to get my license, but I decided not to." It's going to make you feel less and less willing to share, open up to me, and that's not a good thing. Instead, all I would need to respond with, "That sounds amazing. What was your favorite part?" And number three, don't be distracted. It sounds easy, but it's much harder to do. That means when you're talking to somebody, don't be looking around the room for who you want to talk to next. Don't be looking at your phone. Don't even glance at your phone to check the time. If you do, it suggests you're more interested and have your mind on other things other than the person in front of you. And that's how to carry a conversation.

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